Sunday, October 16, 2011

Petua kepada isteri

Diceritakan pada suatu hari Fatimah mengeluh kepada alat penggiling rotinya dan menyampaikan hasratnya ingin seorang pembantu. Lalu Rasulullah S.A.W berkata kepada anaknya; 

"Ketahuilah akan ku ajarkan kepada mu sesuatu yang lebih baik daripada sesuatu yang engkau minta daripadaku. Apabila engkau hendak tidur, maka bertakbirlah 34x, bertasbihlah sebanyak 33x dan bertahmidlah sebanyak 33x, maka itu adalah lebih baik dari seorang pembantu rumah"

Actually saya dapat tahu tentang hadis ni masa baca article di website iluvislam baru-baru ni.. so nak dijadikan cerita lepas baca article tu.. sy pun solat asar di UiTM.. then saya amalkan baca subhanallah,alhamdulillah dan Allahuakbar sebanyak 33 X setiap satu.. then masuk maghrib pun sama.. after solat maghrib di UiTM.. saya pun balik rumah di Sentul.. sampai rumah kalau x silap dah nak dekat pukul 9.. ..

Usually bila sampai rumah malam2 sy mmg dah separuh mati dah.. yerlah sebab kelas pack dari pagi hingga malam ( kebetulan ada kelas ganti hari tu).. the drive balik KL lagi.. memang kebiasaanya sy mmg balik terus mandi dan tido.. Tapi kali ni.. bila saya balik.. saya kurang rasa penat.. masa tu rumah agak kelam kabut.. sbb dah 2 hari rumah x vakum... so sy terus ambik vakum.. vakum satu rumah.. basuh bilik air.. tolong pakaikan baju anak2.. ( my husband mandikan anak-anak).. makan nasi goreng yang my husband belikan.. bersih dapur.. bersih carpet dan meja yang kitaorang makan tadi basuh baju, angkat baju.. mandi.. solat lepas tu lipat baju sambil tengok tv.. tengok2 masa tu dah pukul 11 malam.. dan sy still bertenaga.. and masa tu sy wonder.. mcm mana saya boleh sekuat itu? sedangkan selama ni rumah hanya sy bersihkan hujung minggu saje.. itu pun ada orang datang bersih.. tapi skarang selepas penat balik kelas.. still mampu bersih rumah.. lepas tu sy baru teringat tentang hadis Rasulullah SAW kepada fatimah.. dan memang zikir itu adalah lebih baik dari seorang pembantu....

Di harap kepada para-para isteri marilah kita mengamalkan apa yang Rasulullah SAW ajarkan kepada kita.. supaya rumah tangga kita berada di dalam keadaan yang teratur.. inshaAllah..

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Ben10 cakes from Secret Recipe - will never be in my list

Ben10 punya design yang kitaorang supposely nk buat kat kek bday Benjamin..

Untuk Birthday Benjamin.. i plan nk beli cake Ben10 dari Secret Recipe.. since masa hari raya baru2 ni kitaorang gi makan secret recipe then Benjamin ternampaklah kek ben10 yang ada dia letak kat dalam menu punya buku.. So Benjamin request for that cake untuk birthday dia..

My MIL and SIL pun cadang nk hadiahkan kek tuelah kepada Benjamin untuk Birthday dia.. so diaorang pergi dekat SR di cawangan Taman Melati.. tapi SR kat situ x terima tempahan untuk Kek Ben 10... then diaorang pergi pulak ke SR cawangan Alpha Angel.. kat situ pulak.. bila my SIL pergi tanya.. dia ckp kene bawak gambar sendiri without mention that you have to print the picture according the size that you want on the cake.. dan bagi gambar tu kat diaorang... So my SIL in desingkan gambar Ben10 yang plan untuk letak dekat kek.. and save dlm thumbdrive.. me and my husband bawak pergi ke SR tu untuk tempah kek.. Bila i pergi tanya orang kerja SR tu.. dia ckp.. dia x nak file dlm Thumbdrive tapi dia nak gambar... dan dia suruh i pergi print dekat kedai gambar near kat situ..

I pergi kedai gambar, tapi punyalah susah nk print gambar.. masuk2 thumbdrive komputer kedai tue hang lah pulak... i pulak masa tu tengah rushing sbb me and my husband ada janji nk jumpa orang before 10PM ( i arrive Alpha Angel around 8.45pm)..so i cancel nk print gambar..

I pergi balik kat secret recipe and ckp kat dia i x boleh nk print.. and ckp2 dengan pekerja kat situ bagi tahu yang kek ni mustahak sangat.. last2 pekerja kat situ bagilah satu file gambar2 cartoon yang kita boleh pilih untuk print.. ( Laaaa... rupanya ada gambarnya..).. I pun pilihlah gambar yang i nk.. then bila bagi tahu kat pekerja dia.. dia ckp.. kek tu boleh siap dalam masa 5 hari.. which is hari sabtu petang baru boleh collect.. ( masa tu lah i nk buat birthday party).. Masa tu i pun mmg dah give up dengan secret recipe... Service yang diaorang bagi mcm HAMPEH!!!!.. dahlah bila i pergi tanya pasal kek dia buat muka mcm x nak layan... i the one yang beli something kat kedai dia.. and dia buat mcm x reti bahasa ajer!!!..

Yang paling i sakit hati..My SIL and MIL dah pergi ke SR tu minggu lepas.. and pekerja kat situ just simply REJECT my MIL dan SIL punya order sbb x ada gambar.. diaorang langsung x ada insiatif untuk tunjuk gambar dalam file yang diaorang ada tu.. padahal file gambar2 kartoon diaorang tu punyalah banyak... mcm2 jenis kartoon ada.. kenapa x boleh tunjuk pada customers???? The customers dah make some effort pergi ke kedai diaorang untuk beli kek.. and diaorang mmg x hargai langsung... LANGSUNG!!!!..


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Monday, September 26, 2011

Tragedi belon ben10

Kelmarin 25 september.. sy bawaklah Benjamin dan Aleesya ke Jalan Tunku Abdul Rahman.. coz my husband nk carikan beberapa barang di situ..

So masa jalan2-jalan kat situ Benjamin ternampak orang jual belon yang ada macam-macam bentuk.. ada bentuk spongebob,ben10,kapal dan mcm2 lagi.. so apa lagi.. dia pun mintak belilah... sy pun belilah belon bentuk ben10.. buat happy hati anak2..Since ingat Benjamin sorang jer yang pandai main belon tu.. sy beli satu ajalah.. sbb ingatkan Aleesya x pandai main belon bertali-tali nih....

Bila dah beli.. kitaorang pun masuk semuahouse.. my husband suruh tunggu kat dalam semua house punya Hall tu.. sbb dia nk gi hantar barang2 masuk kereta kejap.. so sy ingat x ada masalah handle 2 orang budak.. sy pun OK jerlah..

Bila my husband pergi jer kat tempat letak kereta which is level atas.. Aleesya dan Benjamin mula buat perangai.. Aleesya nk main belon Benjamin.. Benjamin x bagi kos Aleesya duk pegang ke belon tu mcm nk pecah.. Benjamin suruh Aleesya pegang tali belon tu.. Aleesya tanak.. then Benjamin pun x bagilah belon tu.. Aleesya apa lagi.. sbb sakit hati Benjamin x bagi belon.. dia pun buat hal.. dia pergi nak main tanggalah.. pergi main barang-barang oranglah... pergi main eskelator lah.. sy yang penat duk kerjar2 Aleesya nih suruhlah Benjamin bagi belon kat Aleesya..

Benjamin bagilah kejap Aleesya sentuh belon tu.. then dia ambik balik.. and tolak Aleesya sbb x nak Aleesya main.. lepas tu apa lagi.. jadilah sesi rebut-merebut belon tu kat depan orang-orang yang lalu lalang kat situ.. malunnya saya masa tu x tahu nk letak muka kat mana.. dahlah diaorang punyalah gaduh bising satu kompleks tu kot dengar.. Last2 saya yang x tahan malu.. sy pun rampas belon tue daripada Benjamin dan ckp " dah..dah.. semua x leh main belon.. biar mummy jer main"..

Sy pun ambik belon tu.. dan pegang tali.. belon tu terapung-apung di udara sambil saya peganglah tali dia.. Benjamin pulak takut belon tu terbang sbb nampak belon tu terapung-apung.. suruh sy bawak turun belon tu.. sy pun bawak turun... Aleesya pulak.. bila dah nampak Belon tu dah turun dan duduk depan mata dia.. turun meluru ke arah saya dan cengkam belon tu.. Akhirnya belon tu pun pecah.,.. mmeng FRUST gilerlah Benjamin.. belon tu beli x sampai setengah jam.. dahlah RM5 sebiji.. akhirnya pecah... Benjamin pun apa lagi.. nangis semahu-mahunya kat depan orang.. Sy pulak duk gelak2 sbb x tahan tgk belon Benjamin yang makin lama makin kecut..

Tiba-tiba my husband datang.. so pujuklah Benjamin.. sy ckp kt Benjamin nk beli belon lain.. so kitaorang keluar dari semua house gi cari orang jual belon.. tapi malangnya orang jual belon dah x ada.. (maybe dah balik kot).. Benjamin pun buat muka monyoklah sbb x dapat belon ben10..

Memang benjamin geram giler kat adik dia masa tu.. dahlah pecahkan belon dia.. dan skrang nk beli baru pun dah x ada orang jual.. Benjamin pukul adik dia kat muka sbb geram sangat.. tapi nasib baik my husband bawak lari Aleesya cepat2...

Memang tradegi sungguh..betapa riuhnya suasana kat semua house tu dengan Benjamin dan Aleesya sampai orang2 kat situ.. semua duk menanya perihal diaorang yang duk gaduh2... Malu..malu...

So gambar kat atas tu adalah gambar Benjamin yang muka monyok.. masa on the way balik rumah dengan belon ben10 yang dah "kecut".. hasil airtangan Aleesya Reyhana.. dan sebelah belon tue adalah Wajah Aleesya yang selamba badak jer.. tanpa rasa bersalah...
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Saturday, September 24, 2011

Birthday Benjamin

Next Week 29 sept 2011.. Genaplah Benjamin Rayyan berumur 3 tahun..

Tapi disebabkan 29 sept tu jatuh pada hari khamis, maka majlis hari jadi dia tunda kepada hari sabtu 1 oct 2011

Im not sure whether dia aware atau x dengan his coming birthday, but one thing i can be sure of.. for this whole day and yesterday he keep telling that he want a BEN10 birthday cake.. i guess he know kot...

Being a mother or a parents you always want the best for your kids.. wanna make their childhood to become the best mommet they ever had in their lives.. so as mother.. i always try so hard to give the best for my kids..

The plan for his birthday is that we will have a birthday party for him..

Alhamdulillah.. Benjamin murah rezeki. banyak dapat sponsor dari kaum keluarga.. especially mak sedara dia yang akan sponsor kek.. Tok mi ( my husband's side) yang akan sponsor katering.. and InshaAllah akan ada sponsor lain jugak..

Hari ni.. me and my husband baru aja nk start tempah2 dewan,plan for guest list , plan untuk makanan.. dan macam2 lagi.. Harapan sy.. semoga majlis sambutan Benjamin Rayyan... berjalan dengan lancar...
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Friday, September 23, 2011

Institusi kekeluargaan Islam

Semester ni saya kena ambik kokurikulum.. selepas 3 semester sy asyik duk "drop" subjek tu..
Jadi subjek koko yang sy ambik sem ni adalah "institusi kekeluargaan Islam 1"
Hari Khamis baru ni sy pergilah kelas koko tu.. seperti yang di jangka mmg sy sorang ajalah yang berkahwin dalam kelas tu. Ustazah sy pun dah berkahwin beranak satu.. dia baru aja lepas pantang anak pertama dia.. dan saya pulak dah beranak 2.. ( lagi advance dari ustazah)..

Kebanyakkan yang ambik subjek dalam kelas tu semuanya dah berpunya ( dah bercouple).. cuma ada seorang aja yang sudah bertunang..
So masa dalam kelas.. ustazah bagi penerangan tentang apa yang kitaorang akan belajar dalam kelas ni. Pada mulanya kitaorang akan belajar tentang aqidah dan fardhu ain ..sbb kata ustazah sebelum kita melompat ke alam perkahwinan kita perlulah memantapkan diri kita sendiri dahulu dengan agama yang kukuh.. barulah apabila kita berkahwin nanti.. kita mampu menepis segala cabaran dan dugaan yang mendatang...

kalau di tengok pada zaman sekarang, mmg ramai sangat yang berkahwin beberapa tahun dan kemudian bercerai.. memang ramailah kenalan2 saya yang berkahwin sekitar tahun yang saya kahwin.. akhirnya bercerai pada hari ini.. di manakah silap kita?? adalah ianya silap suami yang tidak mampu memimpin ataupun silap isteri yang tidak pandai melayan?? Statistik di Malaysia menunjukkan bahawa kebanyakkan pasangan-pasangan suami isteri bercerai adalah kerana "kurang persefahaman"... Macam mana ini boleh berlaku??

Bak kata ustazah sy masa kelas koko tuh.. salah satu punca kenapa rumahtangga yang kita bina jadi rapuh dan hancur adalah kerana kekuatan dalam diri kita dan pasangan kita rapuh.. aqidah kita rapuh..ibadah kita x kukuh..maka robohlah rumahtangga kita..

Jadi yang sebenar-benarnya..kita sudah tertipu dengan kisah cinta dalam TV yang telah di tayangkan oleh orang barat...kita ingat bila "deeply in love" dengan pasangan kita..maka kebahagiaan adalah milik kita.. tapi bukan..bukan cinta sesama manusia yang kekal.. tapi cinta kepada yang Maha Mengasihi.. yang akan mengukuhkan perhubungan kita dengan pasangan kita.

Jadi kepada teman-teman yang membaca.. jika anda ingin berkahwin.. ataupun sudah berkahwin.. kunci kebahagiaan adalah apabila iman kita kukuh..
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Monday, September 19, 2011

Asus Transformer

Laptop lama.. dah 5 tahun pakai.. speaker pun dah rosak.. so sy pun belilah komputer baru bagi menggantikan laptop lama saya..

Masa mula-mula nk beli tu.. pilihan sy adalah notebook.. tapi bila tgk asus transformer ni yang boleh jadi tablet pc + notebook.. maka sy pun belilah asus transformer nih...

Kelebihan Asus Transformer

1) Dia boleh jadik 2 benda.. Tablet + Notebook.. soo mmg sangat mudahlah. time nk buat kerja.. buat jadi notebook dengan menyambungkan tablet dia dengan keyboard.. tapi bila nk buat main2 dan nk surf internet cabut aja tablet dari keyboard.. maka bolehlah jadi tablet pc

2) Walaupun Asus ni dia x guna microsoft office tapi still boleh nk buat kerja.. dengan menggunakan POLARIS OFFICE.. then savekan sebagai doc.. then bolehlah nk access kat pc lain..

3) asus jugak mempunya tempat connect USB.. jadi bolehlah nk connect thumbdrive dan external hardisk..

Keburukkan Asus

1) Application android still banyak yang berbayar.. yang free pun apps.. yang biasa2 aja

2) untuk bloggingg pulak.. x boleh nk berblog di website biasa kene guna apps sendiri.. so agak lecehlah sbb nk kene sesuaikan dengan situasi yang baru untuk berblog.

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Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Selamat Hari Raya

Selamat Hari Raya kepada semua Muslimin dan Muslimat!!!!.. Tahun ni kali keempat saya beraya dengan suami dan anak2.. dan kali keempat berturut2 beraya di Terengganu...hehehehe.. Supposedly raya tahun ni kitaorang semua balik raya di Kampung my husband.. di Kelantan.. tapi disebabkan Benjamin Rayyan kena demam campak last minute..maka x dapatlah nak balik raya... Tahun ni kitaorang raya ala-ala kadar ajer... kenikmatan hari raya pun tak dapat nak rasa sangat.. maybe sbb tahun ni sy sungguh2 sibuk.. awal tahun sibuk dengan kelas.. pertengahan tahun sibuk buat praktikal.. sehinggalah last two weeks before raya saya masih berkerja.. jadi mmg x ada masa buat persiapan raya.. baju raya anak2 dan my husband kitaorang shopping last minute.. tu pun baju melayu my husband pakai yang dah sedia ada ajer.. baju raya saya pulak..lagilah kesian.. hanya ada dua helai jubah yang mak saya beli masa buat umrah baru2 nih.. jubah tu ajalah buat raya... huhuhu... Time raya pulak.. sy mmg malas sangat2 nk berjalan raya.. bukan sbb apa.. malas nk angkut Benjamin dengan muka berbintik-bintik ke rumah orang.. nanti orang lain kene demam campak.. kita pulak kene marah.. hmm.. Anyway kepada semua kawan-kawan dan Sedara - mara yang membaca post saya ni... Saya ingin memohon maaf dan ampun kepada kalian semua di atas kesilapan saya.. yang sy telah lakukan secara sedar dan x sedar...

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Honeymoon

Hampir seminggu Benjamin dan Aleesya x ada kat rumah.. diaorang duk Terengganu dgn my parents... dan Hampir seminggu jugak me and my husband BerHONEYMOON di KL..

Actually it is a good things to do sometimes.. sbb bila anak-anak ada kat rumah.. kita akan occupied dengan anak-anak.. and we tend to spent less time with our partner.. and what make it worst is.. it will create a gap between you and your partner.. the gap will grew bigger and bigger if you just ignored it...oh well this case is different between people...

Back to my story.. Dulu masa anak-anak ada kat rumah.. me and my husband memang jarang dapat spent masa bersama.. My husband selalu depan komputer and i selalu dengan anak-anak depan TV.. bila dah malam.. both of us mmg sangat penat.. we talked less.. and most of the topic was about our kids..

We argued a lot before this.. because bila kitaorang kurang dpt spent masa bersama.. we tend to be more selfish towards our partner.. There was no US in the relationship.. and it always U and ME ( with kids)..

So bila suddenly anak-anak dah x ada.. kitaorang dapat spent masa sama-sama.. dapat kenal each other lagi dekat.. dapat bercakap pasal banyak benda... dapat buat banyak benda sama-sama.. mcm mana "couple-couple" dulu.. hehehehe..

In some ways.. those things buat hubungan kami bertambah erat.. Bila pergi jalan-jalan.. my husband akan pegang tangan i..bila tgk movie.. dia akan peluk i.. we laughed a lot.. and we argued less.. he care more about me.. and his attention is only for me.. and that make me feel sooo happy..

Everything yang i nak..my husband akan cuba dapatkan.. pernah jugak my husband bangun pagi-pagi.. untuk pergi beli makanan kat bawah.. ( dulu i jer yang selalu gi beli makanan).. bila tengah2 malam i rasa lapar.. kitaorang pergi supper kat kedai mamak.. walaupun masa tu my husband dah ngantuk giler ( pukul 3 pagi).. dia still bwk jugak i pergi supper.. dan yang paling best..dia langsung x berkira bila kene keluarkan duit untuk kitaorang spent masa sama-sama... Tgk wayang, main bowling, karaoke, makan best-best.. dan mcm-macam lagi... ohhhh my husband is the best man i ever had in my whole life.. and i am bless coz i have him...

So Kepada yang dah kahwin.. once in a while kita kena spent masa bersama-sama dengan pasangan kita.. supaya kita boleh refresh balik our relationship with them.. Im not saying anak-anak ni mengeruhkan keadaan rumah tangga.. Anak-anak penyeri rumah tangga.. dialah penghibur kita dengan suami kita.. tapi we cant deny the fact that kids make us occupied .. and this will create a gap in our relationship...

Spent masa bersama-sama doesnt need a whole weekend.. kadang-kadang satu malam sudah cukup.. pergi tengok wayang sama-sama ke.. or pergi dinner sama-sama.. tu dah cukup.. luangkan masa hanya untuk kita dan pasangan kita.. no kids..

Bila i spent masa dengan my husband.. i selalu bagi tahu dia.. " if kita love each other.. our kids will learn how to love others because they always watching us"..

p/s : I nk my marriage jadi mcm my grandparents.. They love each other untill today..diaorang x leh hidup tanpa satu sama lain.. and pernah atuk i ckp " dia hanya nak nenek i ajer yang selalu bersama dgn dia bila dia sakit".. for some people diaorang akan rasa benda ni mcm membebankan.. coz suami dia x leh hidup sendiri.. but for me.. when my husband need ONLY me.. it means i must be something important in his life.. and that show how much he love me..

Thursday, March 31, 2011

♦- I hope... - A letter from Mom and Dad }}



This is a beautiful video.. i cried every time i watched...
If you still have a parents.. please spent your time to take care of them..
Because they are the only precious you have in life.. ( you just have one mom and one dad)..
And because you were also their only precious in their life.. ( No matter how many siblings you have.. every one will be count)..

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Bahan Terpenting di dalam Rumah

Ada 2 barang yang sungguh penting di dalam rumah saya.. di mana benda-benda nih, x akan habis stock... memang kena selalu ada..

1) Limau Nipis



- Limau nipis ni digunakan untuk kesihatan dan jugak untuk masakan. Contohnya kalau nak masak kerabu ke, or tom yam ke.. kalau letak limau nipis ni memang sangat best.
- Limau nipis juga digunakan untuk membasuh barang-barang mentah, seperti ayam, ikan, daging, sotong dan udang. Kalau kita basuh dengan limau nipis ni memang boleh hilang bau hanyir nyer.. especially pada ayam dan ikan. Kalau ikan tu di basuh dengan limau nipis, mesti akan hilan bau hanyir ikan, dan ikan tu boleh jadi mcm fresh.. kiranya kalau masak tuh.. memang rasa fresh jer ikan tu.. Kalau nk tahu rasa ikan fresh macam mana... isi ikan dia rasa manis-manis sedap.... samalah untuk ayam jugak...
- Limau nipis juga boleh digunakan untuk kesihatan, di mana limau nipis ni mengandungi Vitamin A dan Vitamin C, selain tu, asid sitrik dalam limau nipis ni boleh jugak digunakan untuk buang lemak.. Caranya minum jus limau nipis 2 - 3 biji sebelum tido.. esok memang akan membuang air besar dengan lawasnya... x caya cubalah..
- Jika anda diserang batuk-batuk, bolehlah guna limau nipis di campur dengan madu, sebagai ubatnya.

2) Madu



- Madu ni memang banyak khasiatnya.

Rasulullah SAW bersabda : "Ambillah, pergunakanlah olehmu sekalian akan dua penyembuh iaitu Madu dan Al-Quran" ( Ibnu Majah)

- Madu boleh mencerdaskan otas, boleh jugak buat awet muda, dan macam-macam.. madu jugak boleh digunakan sebagai pemanis masakan.

If i can raise my child over again

by Diane Loomans

If I had my child to raise all over again,
I'd build self esteem first, and the house later.
I'd fingerpaint more, and point the finger less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less and know to care more.
I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.
I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.
I'd do more hugging and less tugging.
I'd see the oak tree in the acorn more often.
I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.
I'd model less about the love of power,
And more about the power of love.

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Check this out!

My aboh Ki ( atuklah).. memang suka menulis or mengarang sejak dari dulu-dulu lagi....

Dulu dia memang suka menulis untuk surat-surat khabar.. memang banyak jugaklah artikel-artikel dia telah di "publish" dalam surat khabar..

So skrang bila zaman sudah berubah.. dengan wujudnya kewujudan blog ni.. so my aboh ki pun startlah menulis dekat dlm blog...

Objektifnya untuk mengeratkan hubungan kekeluargaan di dalam keluarga kami.. inshaAllah..

So cubalah kunjungi blog my aboh ki.. dan korang boleh lah tengok luahan hati seorang SUAMI,ABOH,ABOH KI ( Atuklah..) dan , NYANG ( MOYANG).....

CLICK HERE untuk ke Blog..

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

isteri, mak dan pelajar..

3 title tuee.. semuanya mencabar.. dan 3 title tuelah yang sy pegang buat masa sekarang nie... bila lepas habis belajar nanti, title yang terakhir tu di tukar jadi "pekerja" lah pulah.. so yang sebenarnya.. X ADA APA-APA YANG PELIK PUN..



Maybe im kinda person yang always take things positively... but here is what im thinking about those title..

1. i rather be a student than an employees.. because bila i jadi student i dpt 4 months cuti every year! and no employees boleh dapat 4 bulan cuti straight!.. ( kecuali kalau beranak.. tu pun kalau private mesti less than 3 months)..

2. Memang i ada banyak assingment.. banyak kerje.. banyak masalah.. tp ia hanya masa semester aja.. bila dah cuti.. x perlu pikir semua tu..

3. i dont have to go to class from 8 till 5.. kadang2 ada hari yang kelasnya satu or dua.. so by noon i dah ada kat rumah.. and this sem. wednesday i langsung x ada kelas.. so you can imagine how my life would be like?

4. I may not the best student masa sebelum kahwin.. but i can see that my performance in studies getting better once i married.. i dont know why and how.. cuma i rasa lebih fokus.. maybe because i x ada banyak masa untuk study.. so bila dpt masa untuk study.. i memang buat betul2...

so utntk orang yang nak kahwin awal masa tengah belajar tuh... i just have two words for you.... "why not"

Monday, March 21, 2011

Nasi Goreng Cina Attilla punya Style



Panjang cukup nama nasi goreng nih.. hahaha.. Anyway nih nasi goreng best punya..

BAHAN-BAHAN

1. Mangkuk nasi
2. 1 Biji Telur
3. Bawang merah
4. Bawang putih
5. Cili padi di potong halus
6. Isi ayam dipotong dadu
7. Sos tiram
8. Sos ikan
9. Sos kicap soya ( kalau x ada kicap soya pun x apa)
10. Garam
11. Lada sulah dan Lada hitam

CARA-CARANYA

1. Panaskan minyak ke dalam kuali, dan masukkan bawang merah, bawah putih dan cili padi. Goreng hingga masak

2. Masukkan ayam yang dipotong dadu, dan goreng hingga masak.

3. Pecahkan telur, masukkan ke dalam kuali dan teruskan menggoreng

4. masukkan sos tiram,sos ikan,kicap soya, garam, lada hitam dan lada sulah

5. masukkan nasi dan goreng hingga garing.

6. Ready untuk dimakan.



Gambar dekat... hmmm yummy..yummy

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Rasulullah( SAW) baring di atas riba Isterinya

Kadang-kadang orang kita silap persepsi dengan menyangka bahawa budaya romantik itu datang dari Barat. Mereka menyangka Islam menganjurkan sikap tegas dalam hubungan lelaki-perempuan, hatta di kalangan suami isteri. Sangkaan begini terbukti silap.

Sebenarnya orang kita masih lagi terbelenggu dengan amalan kebanyakan masyarakat rumpun Melayu yang kadang-kadang malu tak bertempat dan tegas tak kena gaya. Hasilnya mereka tumpul budaya romantis dan kering dalam bercinta. Yang lebih ganjil lagi, ketika di luar ikatan perkahwinan, mereka bukan main romantik, tetapi bila sudah bernikah, mereka bersikap dingin dan hanya tahu romantik ketika di atas katil.

Sikap ini berbeza dengan sifat romantis Rasulullah sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam yang sentiasa bergaul dengan isteri dengan penuh mesra dan ceria. Kedudukan Baginda yang begitu tinggi di sisi Allah dan masyarakat tidak menghalang Baginda untuk bersama dengan isteri dengan penuh rasa cinta dan kasih.

Hal ini dapat dilihat daripada hadis riwayat Aisyah yang berkata;

لَقَدْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَضَعُ رَأْسَهُ فِي حِجْرِي وَأَنَا حَائِضٌ وَيَقْرَأُ الْقُرْآنَ

Maksudnya;
"Sesungguhnya Rasulullah SAW sering meletakkan kepalanya di ribaku, sedangkan ketika itu aku sedang berhaid, dan Baginda pula membaca Al-Quran" (Sunan Ibni Majah : 626)

Tidak dinafikan, perasaan cinta antara suami isteri itu kadangkala menebal, dan kadangkala menipis, lebih-lebih lagi dikala isteri dalam keadaan tidak suci ekoran haid dan nifas. Oleh itu, bagi hendak menghangatkan perasaan cinta antara suami isteri, perlu mempunyai daya kreatif masing-masing dalam melahirkan perasaan cinta bergelora.

Dengan hadis ini, Nabi SAW seakan-akan mengajar kepada kita tentang antara tindakan yang perlu dilakukan bagi menghangatkan balik perasaan cinta itu.

Justeru itu, sebagai suami, tidak seharusnya merasa malu untuk meletakkan kepala mereka di riba isterinya. Begitu juga, pihak isteri pula tidak selayaknya merasa janggal dengan tindakan suaminya itu sehingga menganggap tindakan sebegitu seperti tindakan anak dengan ibunya yang mahu bermanja.

Sesungguhnya bermanja antara suami isteri merupakan ibadat disisi Allah, yang melahirkan banyak kelebihan dari sudut keuntungan dunia, mahupun keuntungan di akhirat.

Keuntungan di akhirat adalah dengan balasan pahala, dan keuntungan di dunia adalah dengan kemesraan dan kebahagiaan yang wujud dalam kehidupan berumah tangga.

Dari hadis ini juga, kita akan dapat melihat betapa Islam adalah agama yang cukup memuliakan kaum perempuan berbanding apa yang telah dilakukan oleh orang-orang jahiliyyah terdahulu.

Orang-orang jahiliyyah terdahulu, memandang perempuan yang berhaid sebagai jijik sehingga mereka meletakkan undang-undang adat mereka yang meletakkan perempuan seperti barang buangan dan barang terpakai.

Apabila datang Nabi SAW, baginda menyeru manusia kepada Islam yang memandang mulia kepada kaum perempuan, walaupun mereka secara fitrah mempunyai masalah bulanan, iaitu Haid dan Nifas.

Kemuliaan ini dibuktikan dengan tindakan Nabi SAW yang bermesra dengan isterinya yang sedang berhaid, dengan meletakkan kepala baginda di riba isterinya yang sudah pasti haid itu berada dikemaluan yang berhampiran dengan riba tersebut. Ini ditambahi lagi dengan tindakan nabi SAW membaca Al-Quran di kala kepala baginda SAW berada di riba Isterinya.

Ekoran dari itulah, Imam An-Nawawi (Aun Al-Ma'bud : 1/305.) menyatakan bahawa hadis ini menjadi dalil kukuh bahawa tidak dilarang membaca Al-Quran dalam keadaan berbaring dan bersandar pada orang perempuan yang sedang berhaid, malahan ianya juga menjadi dalil bahawa tidak menjadi kesalahan membaca Al-Quran berhampiran dengan najis.

SOURCES DARI ARTIKEL ILUVISLAM.COM

Cream Caremel / puding gula hangus



Sorry.. gambar x berapa cantik..

BAHAN - BAHAN

1. satu tin kecil susu pekat
2. 5 biji telur
3. 6 sudu besar gula
4. 1 sudu tepung jagung

CARA-CARANYA

1. Pecahkan 5 biji telur kedalam bekas, pukul sehingga kembang

2. Masukkan satu tin susu pekat ke dalam telur dan pukul hingga sebati

3. Masukkan satu sudu tepung jagung, dan kacau.. kemudia letak ketepi

4. Panaskan kuali, dan masukkan 5 sudu gula masak sehingga cair keperangan.

5. Apabila dah cair, masukkan kedalam bekas masa tengah panas, dan masukkan adunan telur dan susu secepat mungkin ( takut gula tu jadi keras)

6. Then kukus dalam masa 10--15 minit.. kemudian siap untuk dihidang

Ayam masak sweet sour with veggies





BAHAN- BAHAN

1. 1/4 ekor ayam di potong kecil2
2. 1 biji telur ayam
3. Tepung Jagung
4. 1 batang carot di potong
5. Bunga kobis
6. Kacang botol
7. 1 batang serai di potong halus
8. Bawang merah
9. 4 batang cili padi di belah 2
10. Bawang putih
11. Sos cili
12. Sos tomato
13. Sos tiram
14. Sos ikan
15. Garam dan gula
16. Secawan air

CARA-CARANYA

1. Pecahkan sebiji telur, masukkan secubit garam dan pukul hingga kembang

2. celupkan ayam kedalam telur dan kemudian masukkan ke dalam tepung jagung. Pastikan semua bahagian ayam diselaputi tepung jagung

3. Goreng ayam hingga masak dan asingkan

4. Panaskan kuali dengan minyak, dan tumis bawang merah, bawang putih,serai yang dipotong halus, dan cili padi

5. Kemudian masukkan sayur-sayur lain ( lobak, bunga kobis, dan kacang panjang)

6. Masukkan sedikit air, dan gorengkan sayur

7. Masukkan sos tiram, sos cili, sos tomato, sos ikan, sedikit garam, dan sedikit gula.

8. Kemudian, masukkan satu sudu kecil tepung jagung untuk pekatkan kuah.

9. Tunggu sehingga mendidih, kemudian siap untuk dihidangkan

Bubur Ayam + carrot




RESIPINYA :

1/2 Batang Lobak dipotong dadu
1 ketul isi ayam di potong dadu
2 ketul Kiub Ayam MAGGIE
1 gelas kecil beras

CARA-CARANYA

1. Basuhkan beras sehingga bersih

2. masukkan beberapa gelas air bersih kedalam periuk sekali dengan beras.

3. Masukkan carrot dan ayam yang dipotong dadu, dan hidupkan api pada suhu sederhana

4. Apabila beras dah pecah menjadi bubur, masukkan kiub ayam maggie.. dan kacau hingga rata

5. Tunggu hingga masak.. dan siap di hidang

p/s : Lebih enak jika di tabur daun bawang dan bawang goreng

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Benjamin Rayyan.. and..

I suka lagu One republic.. i suka music dia...and selama ni i x pernah kenal pun siapa kumpulan One republic tu.. sehinggalah pada malam ni.. i google pasal kumpulan ni.. and baru dapat tahu yang vocalist dia tu nama Ryan Benjamin Tedder...

and my son nama Benjamin Rayyan... and guess what? Benjamin loves Music




This Is Ryan Benjamin Tedder


This is Benjamin Rayyan

Weekend

Weekend.. what we were doing on weekend...( pictures will explain everything this time)



Benjamin main toys "wood train" from IKEA


Benjamin Main train dekat Sunway Pyramid


Me, Aleesya and Abang waiting for Benjamin main Train

Benjamin inside wheel ferris at Sunway Pyramid

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Berurut...

Sedapnya kalau boleh berurut sekarang nih.. Hari2 penat driving from KL to Shah Alam.. di tambah dengan banyak assingment.. test.. notes yang x pernah update.. memang boleh jadi stress.. di saat2 yang stress ni.. berurut sungguh melegakan.. Tapi.. kat KL ni bukan senang nk cari tukang urut..

Cost berurut kat Kl paling kurang pun.. mesti nk kene bagi RM50 ( rasanya reasonablelah jika di compare dengan cost of living kat KL nie..) Tetapi bagi yang menerima RM50 mungkin sungguh gembira.. Yerlah.. kalau sorang urut RM50.. cuba bayangkan kalau urut 5 orang sehari.. x ke dapat RM250 sehari.. dah kalau berurut selama 20 hari sebulan.. memang sah2 dapat RM5000 sebulan.. x gitu??

Tapi bg yang kene keluarkan duit RM50 tu.. fuhhh.. fikir 10 kali jugaklah...

Bezalah kalau kat Terengganu.. coz berurut.. atas ikhlas.. kalau kedekut bagilah RM10.. kurang kedekut RM20.. biasa orang bagi RM30.. kalau saja nk sedekah ke tukang urut tu.. bagilah RM50.. so x ada harga yang ditetapkan.. semuanya atas keikhlasan diri.. Tapi rasanya x ada orang bagi RM10.. sebab kesian si tukang urut.. dahlah berjam2 berurut.. last2 dapat RM10 jer.. boleh lepas sekali makan jer...

Kalau nk compare tempoh berurut dan kesedapan berurut tu.. FUHHHH.. memang jauhlah bezanya.. Kebanyakkan tukang urut kat KL ni adalah warga Indonesia... ( memandangkan ramai bebenar warga Indon kat sini).. ada yang pandai mengurut.. dan ada jugak yang buat2 pandai berurut since nk cari rezeki.. kalau kat Terengganu.. kebanyakkan tukang urut adalah mak cik2 yang dah tua.. yang banyak sungguh pengalaman berurut ni.. yang tahu punca2 urat sana sini.. yang banyak petua untuk di kongsi.. memang tukang urut kat Terengganu sungguh best..

My fav tukang urut adalah "MOK KAH".. everytime balik Trg.. memang confirm akan berurut dengan mok kah.. dia urut memang power.. bila dia tekan aja badan.. memang boleh rasa urat2 kita yang lenguh2.. dan bila dia main2 urat2 lenguh kita tu.. fuhhh legaaaa sangat rasa... Mok kah ni urut bukan sejam.. tapi 3JAM!.. selagi semua urat2 kat badan kita x dibetulkan.. memang dia akan urut..

Dulu.. sy ada penyakit sakit belakang.. sejak beranakkan Benjamin memang selalu sakit belakang.. x leh banyak buat kerje skit mesti sakit belakang.. atas lantai or tilam keras memang x leh tido.. kalau x memang sakit sangat belakang.. sampai nk bangun pun susah.. orang kata sebab EPIDURAL.. tapi ntahlah..

Dah puas berurut dengan mcm2 tukang urut... semuanya x pernah menjadi.. sehinggalah berjumpa dengan mok kah.. dia urut2 kat urat yang sakit tu.. sampai nk terkeluar air mata.. tapi kesannya.. sehingga ke hari ni.. sakit belakang tu memang dah x pernah wujud.. tido atas tilam keras ke.. tilam nk cabut spring ke.. atas batu ker.. x ada masalah.. kalau dulu.. memang atas carpet pun x leh baring.. tapi skarang dh boleh baring2 di atas carpet sambil tengok TV... hebat kan penangan tukang urut??

Tapi.. mok kah x ada di KL ni.. mok kah duduk nung jauh di Terengganu.. nak balik Terengganu memang mustahil.. apa yang boleh adalah.. tahan ajalah kelenguhan badan ni.. sehingga balik Terengganu yang ntahlah bulan berapa tu.. and berurut dengan mok kah yang dirindui... hehehehhe

p/s : semoga Allah memberkati hidup mok kah yang banyak berjasa di dalam hidup orang yang dia pernah urut..

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Mengajar...

Rasanya dah lama x update blog ni.. selalu x ada masa untuk menulis,dan skrang tengah2 malam buta ni.. sedang semua orang tido.. barulah sy ada masa untuk menulis.. di samping lepas ni nk kene study LAND LAW II .. coz selasa ni ada test..

Ok.. sejak seminggu ni.. sy dah start mengajar Benjamin dan Aleesya untuk belajar dan membaca.. Alhamdulillah Benjamin punya belajar memang consistent.. which means almost everyday i will spent just a few minutes to teach him how to read ( using the "ReadEasy" kit), How to do maths ( i made my own cards, but i learned it from Glenn Doman books which i bought masa Benjamin belum lahir lagi).. and last sekali.. ajar Benjamin Al-Fatihah.. (Al-Fatihah i ajar cara untuk memorized aja.. i x mengajar iqra')..Dengan Aleesya pulak.. memang x leh nk consistent.. coz everytime i spent masa dengan Aleesya Benjamin akan buat perangai.. so sngat susah.. but then i still curik2 masa untuk ajar Aleesya how to do math ( using the same method as i did to Benjamin)..

The reason why i did all of this because i rasa anak2 zaman skrang semuanya pandai.. if Benjamin and Aleesya x catch up.. im afraid they will be left behind.. and i am more afraid when all those things will bring them down in the future.. ( yes.. i mmg selalu pikir jauh)...

So far.. i nampak perkembanganya pada Benjamin.. bila i bukak buku "ReadEasy".. ( first book).. benjamin dah boleh kenal huruf2 dan sebutanya.. untuk maths pulak.. Benjamin dah kenal.. berapa banyak jumlah nombor tue.. sbg contoh.. Petang tadi Benjamin tulis kat atas kertas "I I " dan ckp "two" and bila i cakap " Five mcm mana??" dia pun tulis " I I I I I".. so dia tahu berapa jumlahnya five.. i rasa tu adalah improvement yang sungguh membanggakan.. oh well he's just 2 and 1/2 years.. i pun x boleh buat benda mcm tue masa i at his age..

Oh well... i guess cukuplah dulu.. nk kene study pulak nih

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Reform of the Islamic Family Law on Polygamy, 1996

Memorandum On Reform of the Islamic Family Laws on Polygamy

Submitted to Yang Amat Berhormat Perdana Menteri Malaysia
Datuk Seri Dr Mahathir Mohamad
on 11 December 1996 by Sisters in Islam and Association of Women Lawyers

INTRODUCTION

In the fight of the ongoing debate on polygamy in Malaysia, and given the current initiative by the Government to strengthen and promote the family institution and family values, we hereby propose several amendments and suggestions to the laws and regulations on polygamy to ensure that justice is done to women and children as envisaged by the Qur'an.

If the family is indeed seen as the basic unit of any society, then the rights and prerogatives of Muslim males as traditionally understood, and which in practice have often subverted the very sanctity of marriage and family, must be reevaluated. This is to ensure that the pursuit of what is regarded by patriarchal societies as men's rights will no longer cause grave harm and injustice to women and children.

The current debate on polygamy is a reflection of how popular misconceptions and fallacious arguments about men's rights are actually rooted in tradition and values that regard women as inferior and subordinate to men. This is further reinforced by the use of religion to sanctify these prejudices. If we believe that Islam is a liberating religion that uplifted the status of women and gave them rights that were considered revolutionary 1400 years ago, then that same spirit of liberation and justice must inform Muslim societies today.

Those who promote polygamy in this country have used several arguments that we feel are untenable.

First, it is said that polygamy is the "right" of every Muslim male and that to challenge this right is to challenge the word of Allah (s.w.t.). However, a reading of verse 4:3 in the Qur'an clearly shows that polygamy is not an unconditional right in Islam, but a responsibility to ensure that justice be done to widows and orphans.

If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice. (Surah AI-Nisa, Verse 3; translation by Abdullah Yusuf Ali)

This emphasis on justice is further reinforced by verse 4:129 which states:

You are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire …(Surah Al-Nisa, Verse 129).

The letter and the spirit of the verse on polygamy, revealed following the tragedy of the battle of Uhud, is concerned with the overriding welfare and protection of women and children following the death of dozens of Muslim men in the still formative Muslim community of Medina. In those circumstances, Allah (s.wt.) could have sanctioned the unlimited practice of polygamy of the time, but instead, Allah (s.w.t) restricted the practice to a maximum of four wives.

By stressing the need for just conduct toward women and for equal treatment of all wives, and recognising the impossibility of doing so (4:129), verse 4:3 cannot be seen as one that promotes polygamy. It is not a command for men to practise polygamy. The verse, in fact, promotes monogamy as the original and ideal state of marriage in Islam. Several great reformers of the nineteenth century such as Sheikh Muhammad Abduh, the Mufti of Egypt at the turn of the century, and Sayyid Ahmad Khan and Mumtaz Ali of the indian subcontinent had regarded polygamy only as a tolerated institution of the past that should, in the present circumstances, give way to the Qur'anic ideal of monogamy.

Abdullah Yusuf Ali in his commentary on the verse also stated that since the condition for equality in polygamy is so difficult to fulfil, then he understood the verse to recommend towards monogamy. It is interesting to note that in a revised edition of Abdullah Yusuf Ali's translation and commentary of the Qur'an, his recommendation on monogamy was expediently removed by the publishers.

In the practice of polygamy in this country, in its advocacy by many in religious authority or otherwise, and in the implementation of the laws, polygamy is often regarded as an unconditional right of Muslim men. While saying that they are only following the traditions of the Prophet (s.a.w.), those who promote polygamy have conveniently omitted the fact that Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) remained monogamous throughout his marriage to Siti Khadijah (r.a) which lasted 25 long years until her death in the tenth year of his prophethood, and that his subsequent polygamous marriages were to widows and divorcees, for political and tribal reasons.

The only virgin he married was Aishah (r.a.). The advocates of polygamy also omit to cite the authentic hadith (in Sunan lbn Majah) which reported that Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) did not allow Saidina Ali (r.a.) to marry another woman "...unless and until Ali lbn Abi Talib divorces my daughter (Fatimah), for surely she is part of me and what troubles and agitates her troubles and agitates me too; and what harm befalls her befalls me too."

Second, those who advocate polygamy have often cited that there is nothing in the Qur'an nor the Sunnah of the Prophet that requires a Muslim husband to seek his wife's consent before he takes a second wife. Therefore there is no need for the existing wife to be consulted, nor for her consent to be obtained. How can there be justice in a polygamous marriage if the existing wife does not agree to it or worse still, is not even consulted?

The Qur'an as a book of divine guidance is eternal and universal, but neither the Qur'an nor the Sunnah offer specific detailed rules for everything. To do this would render a universal message irrelevant in changing times and circumstances. To meet the challenges of change, the jurists therefore established the principle of al-siyasa al-syariyya, which recognises the right of a state to enact legislation by choosing opinions from among the four schools of jurisprudence to serve the best interest of the community on matters where there is no specific text in the Qur'an or Hadith. It is a fact that the great majority of Islamic rulings are reached through the medium of qi'yas, i.e. judgment upon juristic analogy.

Adopting the principle aal-siyasa al-syariyya, Malaysia embarked on a remarkable programme of reformation of Islamic family laws which introduced among others the restrictions on the practice of polygamy to help ensure that justice is done as envisaged by the Qur'an. As interpreted into law, this means that the decision to marry a second or subsequent wife no longer rests on the Muslim male in this country.

The state which is vested with the responsibility of administering justice is now entrusted with the task of scrutinising the application for polygamy to ensure that it meets with the notion of justice envisioned by the Qur'an. Again as translated into law, the state set five specific conditions which need to be fulfilled, in addition to consultation with the existing wife, before a decision is made on the right of a husband to practice polygamy.

However, in practice, and through amendments made by the various states, the original substance and spirit of this law reform has been violated. In Perak, the decision to contract a polygamous marriage rests solely on the husband. The Syariah court is not required to grant permission, nor have conditions or punishments been set. In Kelantan and Terengganu, the specific conditions for polygamy have also been deleted, leaving the Syariah judge to use his own discretion to decide on whether a husband is eligible to take another wife.

Selangor and the Federal Territories were two jurisdictions which had remained faithful to the original draft of the Islamic family law reforms. However, over the years several retrogressive amendments (1988 in Selangor and 1994 in FT) were made, robbing women and children of the protection afforded them by the principal Act/Enactment in its original form, especially on matters pertaining to polygamy and divorce.

Third, it is often cited that polygamy is an institution sanctioned by Islam to enable men to satisfy their lust through legitimate means. However, nowhere in the Qur'an is there any intimation that polygamy is a solution to men's alleged unbridled lust. Nor do the laws of Malaysia recognise lust as a condition for polygamy. Islam teaches self-control, self-discipline and self-purification. The solution to an immoral society whether in the West or in the Muslim world is not polygamy. If this was so, one would see the end of adultery, rape, incest and prostitution and other such social ills and crimes in Muslim countries or among Muslim men wherever they are.

Indeed in Malaysia, statistics show that 60 per cent of convicted rapists are Malay men, 73 per cent of those who are HIV positive are Malays, 70 per cent of drug addicts are Malay men, the majority of reported cases of incest and domestic violence are perpetrated by Malay men, the majority of cases of abandoned babies are committed by Malays. If indeed polygamy is the panacea for such social ills, why do the Muslim Malays of our country form a disproportionate portion of the perpetrators in all these cases.

The solution to men's alleged unbridled sexual drive is not polygamy, but a change in attitude and values from a belief that it is a man's right to indulge his Just to a belief that a man, unlike other lifeforms, was created with an intellect and a capacity to control his base desires and instincts and to obey Allah's call to piety, discipline and respect for the opposite sex.

Fourth, a fallacious justification for polygamy often cited is a demographic fiction that there are 14 women to every man in Malaysia. This has been repeated over and over again by many advocates of polygamy over radio and television, in the press and in their public talks. However, figures from the 1991 National Population Census issued by the Statistics Department show that there are in fact 103 men to every 100 women in Malaysia and that men exceed women in every age group except in the 60 years and above group.

The propagation of such a preposterous demographic statistic is ill-conceived as it exposes those in religious authority to public ridicule. It is demographically impossible for any country to have such a farfetched proportion of women to men unless that country practises male infanticide or abortion of male foetuses on a large scale. As far as we know, such practices are not part of the Malaysian culture.

In the interest of justice to all its citizens, and as part of the Government's campaign to strengthen the family and arrest social decay, we urge the Government to review the amendments made to the Islamic Family Law statutes by the various states and to repeal or amend those provisions which have resulted in injustice to women and children. The implementation of the conditions for polygamy must also be tightened and clear procedures established to better reflect the spirit and substance of the law which was intended to restrict the practice of polygamy in this country.

We hereby attach our comments and recommendations on the provisions on polygamy in the Islamic Family Law. Another memorandum will be submitted on the overall reform in the substance and administration of Islamic Family Law in the country.

REFORMS ON POLYGAMY

1. Amendments to the Islamic Family Law

Section 23(1) of the Islamic Family Law Act/Enactments was amended to allow polygamous marriages contracted without the required permission of the Court to be registered.

Section 23(4) (e) which provides that the proposed polygamous marriage should not directly or indirectly lower the standard of living enjoyed by the existing wife and dependants has been deleted.

Concerns
The registration of such polygamous marriages is subject to section 123 of the Act which provides for the penalty of a fine not exceeding RM1,000/- or imprisonment for a term not exceeding six months or both for the offence of practising polygamy without permission. In practice, however, this penalty has not served as a deterrent. As far as we know, no man has been imprisoned for contracting a polygamous marriage without the Court's permission. It is also rare for the maximum fine of RM1,000 to be imposed.

A more common practice is a fine of $300. The amendment to Section 23(1) has, in effect, encouraged husbands intending to practise polygamy to circumvent the Act by contracting a polygamous marriage outside the State. For example, in 1985, the Selangor Syariah Courts granted permission for polygamy in 82 cases. However, 350 cases of illegally contracted polygamous marriages were detected. This has increased to 410 up to September this year. This flagrant and prevalent disregard of the law must be addressed. How can those in authority inculcate respect for Islamic law when Muslim men know that they can break the law, or ignore court summonses and court orders, and yet not be punished for their transgressions.

Recommendations
(i) The penalty provision viz. section 123 of the Act be amended to provide for an increased penalty in the form of a minimum fine of RM1,000 and a mandatory custodial sentence of not less than four weeks. The maximum sentence should also be extended from the present six months to one year. This must be enforced strictly in order to deter errant husbands from taking advantage of the loophole in the law and also to inculcate respect for Islamic family law among Muslims. It has been found in other jurisdictions that a mandatory jail sentence in cases of domestic violence has dramatically lowered the incidence of continued violence. In the same manner, in cases of polygamy without court permission which occurs because men regard such acts as their unconditional right, mandatory imprisonment can prove to be a more effective deterrent.

(ii) Reinstate paragraph (e) of section 23(4) which provides that the proposed polygamous marriage should not directly or indirectly lower the standard of living enjoyed by the existing wife and dependants.

(iii) An amendment be introduced to allow the court to make an order in respect of the wife's and children's maintenance, as well as the wife' s share of the property jointly acquired by her and her husband prior to his new marriage. This order should be made automatically by the court without the need for the aggrieved wife to make a specific application. We strongly feel that it is unjust for a wife who has struggled together with her husband to uplift their standard of living to be subsequently deprived of enjoying the just fruits of her labour and sacrifice when her husband marries another woman. The interest of the aggrieved wife and children must be protected. A division of property and assets could at least mitigate some injustice from the financial point of view.

This order should also be made before a polygamous marriage contracted in contravention of the Act can be registered. Should a husband fail to register the marriage, then the first wife can apply to the court for maintenance and for a division of the harta sepencarian.

(iv) Insert a clause similar to section 127(2) of the Johor Islamic Family Law Enactment 1990 which provides as follows:
"127(2) Any person who has more than one wife who has failed to give justice to the wives on maintenance, clothing, place of abode and their entitlement according to Hukum Syarak commits an offence and shall be punished with a fine not exceeding one thousand ringgit or with imprisonment not exceeding six months or with both such fine and imprisonment."

A specific clause for punishment should injustice in polygamous marriages occur will further help protect the interest of the women and children.

2. Tighten and Streamline the Implementation of Section 23(3)
Section 23(3) of the Islamic Family Law Act (FT) 1984 provides that an application for polygamy shall be accompanied by a declaration stating the grounds on which the proposed marriage is alleged to be just and necessary, the present income of the applicant, particulars of his commitments and his ascertainable financial obligations and liabilities, the number of his dependants, including persons who would be his dependants as a result of the proposed marriage, and whether the consent or views of the existing wife or wives on the proposed marriage have been obtained.

Concerns
This provision has usually been implemented in irregular and random ways. It is often left to the husband to choose what he wants to submit as evidence to support his declaration, if at all. Often, supporting documentary evidence is not submitted. In considering a husband's application for polygamy, the Syariah Court judge must in the first place scrutinise his application form and the accompanying declaration to help him decide whether the man is eligible to take another wife according to Section 23(4).

Moreover, we find the design of the Application Form, as issued by the Selangor Syariah Court, misleading. It presumes that permission for polygamy will be granted as a matter of course. The form includes item number 4 which requests for information on the date of the planned polygamous marriage, the place where it will be held, the village and district of the mosque which has jurisdiction, and item number 6 which requests for the names and details of two witnesses.

This form is not an application for marriage, but an application for permission to contract a polygamous marriage in which other conditions have to be fulfilled and other parties have to be consulted. Therefore, it should not give the applicant the erroneous impression that permission would be granted by asking for details of a marriage that might not be permitted to take place.

Recommendations
(i) The Syariah Court must issue a prescribed Declaration Form together with an Application Form to all applicants for polygamy.

(ii) Application Forms for permission to contract a polygamous marriage should not include information such as items 4 and 6 as described above that assumes that permission would be granted. Filling up this form is but the first of many steps that an applicant has to go through in the process to obtain permission for a polygamous marriage.

(iii) Declaration Form should contain the relevant sections to be filled in detail by the applicant as required under Section 23(3, including sections:for the applicant to declare whether the consent or views of the first wifehave been obtained. The wife's signature is a requirement to indicate whether she has been consulted or not. Failure to consult should be a factorto be considered in the judge's decision on whether to grant permission ornot.

It is only fair that the wife, as a partner in the marriage contract, must be consulted regarding her husband's intention at this preliminary stage to change the terms of the contract. It is iniquitous for the wife to learn of the husband's intention only at the stage when she is summoned to appear before the Syariah Court under Section 23(4);

for the applicant to make a declaration to the truth of his statements and thatany false declaration would render him liable to be charged under Section 38 of the Act. The signatures of two witnesses are required to attest to the declaration.
The Form must also require the applicant to produce:

1. supporting medical report to prove that the proposed marriage is just and necessary because of the wife's sterility, physical infirmity, wilful avoidance of an order to restitute conjugal rights, or insanity.
2. supporting documents from his employer or company, his banks, as well as income tax statements, to prove his net income after deductions for debts and other liabilities.

Tighten the Implementation of Section 23(4)
It is often reported that Syariah judges tend to give emphasis to a man's financial capacity to support more than one family in deciding whether he should be given permission to contract a polygamous marriage. Scant regard is given to the other three conditions which the applicant has to fulfil under Section 23(4). The burden of proof must be on the applicant to prove to the court that he has fulfilled all the four conditions necessary to practise polygamy. The 1990 judgment of the Selangor Syariah Appeals Committee in the case of Aishah Abdul Rauf vs Wan Mohd Yusof Wan Othman should be used to establish guidelines for a more just implementation of Section 23 (4).

Recommendations
(i) As stated in the decision of the Selangor Syariah Appeals Committee in the above mentioned case, all four conditions - just and necessary, financial means, equal treatment and no harm caused to the existing wife - are of equal importance and must be proven independently. This means that even if the applicant can prove that he can financially support a second family, he still needs to prove to the Court that he is able to fulfil the other three conditions.

(ii) The applicant must enclose specific supporting documents and provide responsible witnesses to attest to his character and ability to be fair and just and that the proposed marriage would not cause darar syarie (harm affecting wife in respect of religion, life, body, mind, moral or property). We propose that for:

condition (a): the Court should request that medical and other evidence (including witnesses) be produced to prove that the wife is sterile or physically infirmed or unfit for conjugal relations or is insane or is wilfully avoiding an order for restitution of conjugal relations;

condition (b): the applicant must produce supporting documents from his employer or company, his banks, as well as income tax statements, to prove his net income after deductions for debts and other liabilities;

condition (c): witnesses, including the applicant's existing wife, must be produced to corroborate the applicant's claim that he is able to accord equal treatment to all his wives. A mere verbal declaration that the applicant would be fair, without proof and supporting evidence from witnesses, is not acceptable. The husband's conduct as a God-fearing man fulfilling the tenets of Islam, his conduct as a husband, father and son should be taken into consideration by the Court.

condition (d): the existing wife and witnesses must be called and medical evidence be produced to prove that the proposed marriage would not cause darar syarie to the existing wife.

condition (e): with the reinstatement of this condition, the Court should consider the applicant's statement of income, his income tax statements and other financial documents, including any source of income from his proposed second wife to prove that there will not be a drop in the standard of living of the existing wife and children.

(iii) The judge must establish during the consultation with the existing wife if her consent has been given freely or that it has been obtained under duress. It has been brought to our attention that it is common practice for the first wife to be threatened with divorce unless she gives her consent before the judge. After the court appearance, she would return to the court to express her disagreement to the proposed marriage, revealing that her consent was obtained under the threat of divorce and abandonment.

(iv) The applicant's intended wife must also be summoned to the Court to meet with the first wife for consultation to help her consider the realities of a polygamous marriage and whether the applicant can really fulfil the conditions required for such a marriage.

4. Taklik Agreement
The current standard taklik agreement provides for divorce in cases of desertion, non-maintenance or cruelty. There is no provision for redress in cases where the husband contracts a polygamous marriage without the agreement of the existing wife.

The rule that a husband who has agreed in his marriage contract not to take another wife during the subsistence of the marriage would be bound by such a stipulation is not a modernist view. It is a Hanbali ruling that has been adopted and followed in various other Muslim countries such as Syria, Jordan, Morocco, Egypt and Iran. Therefore, individual couples who choose to do so should be allowed to include this term in their taklik agreement, and if it is not honoured by the husband, the wife would be entitled to a taklik divorce.

Recommendations
(i) An additional term be included in the standard taklik agreement, at the option of individual couples, to provide for the right of the wife to obtain a taklik divorce if the husband takes another wife. This is an option to divorce given to the aggrieved wife who is unable to live in a polygamous situation.

(ii) The taklik agreement should also state that the husband's breach of any term in the agreement would entitle the wife to a divorce and to mutaah. Mutaah should not be defined as a "consolatory gift", but as an obligatory compensation payment due to every woman who is divorced without just and sufficient grounds or who has been forced to apply for a divorce because of a breach of the taklik agreement.

5. Other Recommendations
(i) All states must adopt uniform laws on polygamy, using the Islamic Family Law in its original form before it was amended by Selangor and Federal Territories. Perak, Perlis, Terengganu and Kelantan, in particular, must be advised to amend their enactments immediately to grant women better protection. Alternatively, such uniformity can be enforced by invoking Article 76(1)(b) of the Federal Constitution which confers power upon the Federal Parliament to "...make laws with respect to any matter enumerated in the State List, but only as follows, that is to say: ... (b) for the purpose of promoting uniformity of the laws of two or more states;"

(ii) A common computerised register of Muslim marriages be established at the national level linked to a similar system at the state level to enable the Court or the State Religious Department to establish immediately if an applicant for marriage is already married. Very often the proposed wife is not aware that her intended husband is already married. In a case where the applicant has lied about his marital status, the Court should dismiss outright any subsequent application on his part to contract a polygamous marriage and charge him for false declaration under Section 38.

(iii) All Muslim males applying for permission to marry must sign a statutory declaration that they are unmarried and this is to be submitted together with his application form. A false declaration renders him liable to be charged under Section 38.

(iv) The parties involved in the application for polygamy - the husband, the existing wife and the intended wife - must attend counselling sessions to consider more deeply and fully the consequences of a polygamous marriage and to consider its impact on the children. All must be counselled on their rights and responsibilities in a polygamous marriage, the options opened to any aggrieved party, and the penalties for failure to carry out duties according to the law. The counsellor's report should be taken into consideration by the Court in deciding whether permission should be granted or not.

(v) All Court judgments on applications for polygamy must be written, giving grounds as to why permission was granted or not, to assist in the process of appeal.

6. General Recommendations
(i) The best of laws designed to protect women will remain ineffective if prejudicial social attitudes towards women prevent them from getting access to the rights granted to them under the law. All syariah judges, religious officials, and counsellors must undergo gender sensitisation training to enable them to better serve their clients, the majority of whom are women. Only then can the syariah courts engender confidence among women that they can be assured of justice within the system.

(ii) Each state is to establish an independent watchdog body similar to the Public Complaints Bureau to receive complaints from aggrieved parties and channel them to the appropriate authority for action. This body will also monitor the implementation of the Islamic Family Law by the Syariah Courts and the programmes and activities of the Religious Departments.

(iii) The Government should fund a comprehensive research project to be undertaken by an independent organisation to study all aspects of polygamy: how the court grants permission for polygamy, polygamy without permission of the court, and the impact of polygamy on the family institution, socially, economically, morally and emotionally.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Mariah child development center

Now Benjamin dah masuk sekolah.. kat Mariah child development center.. terletak di Bukit Antarabangsa.. jaraknya dari rumah.. lebih kurang 15 minit..

Masa mula2 Benjamin masuk sekolah dulu.. dia mmg selalu nangis.. selalu memberontak x nak pergi sekolah.. me and my mother in law hampir2 nk give up hantarkan Benjamin ke sekolah..coz kesiankan tengok dia hari2 duk memberontak.. tapi keyakinan yang pengetua Mariah Child Development center ni bagi.. and berkat doa dan usaha semua.. akhirnya i teruskan jugak hantar Benjamin ke sekolah.. and now.. Benjamin dah suka pergi sekolah..

Sejak Benjamin masuk sekolah ni.. i can see that there are some changes..

1) Everytime nk makan.. Benjamin akan baca doa.. walaupun sebutan doa tu x berapa betul.. it is enough to show that he know everytime he want to eat he has to read doa..

2) He always occupy himself with pensel and paper.. balik rumah mesti nk cari dia punya pensel warna.. and nk buat warna.. dia masih x boleh nk colour dgn baik ( oh well what can you expect to a 2 1/2 years kid).. tapi at least dia dh boleh pegang pensel dengan baik..

oh well.. i hope that he can learn a lot in CDC..

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

kids

I dont how others manage to handle 4- 10 kids.. but in my case two is more than enough..

Maybe i am not kind of person who is patient enough with the kids.. or maybe im just too busy concentrate to my life and i have no times for my babies.. but for whatever reason is.. two is more than enough.. for now..

Oh yes i do have plan to have another kids.. but not now.. not until i graduate.. or at least until i have good pay.. so i can hire a maid..

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Words of wisdom of the day : 1

"examples of how the way you look at things in life will determine how happy you are"

My dad told me.. something like " if you look at life.. look at a lot of angles..".. and the reason behind this .. when you look at something at just one angles.. you may make a quick jugde.. and your jugdement might not be a fair one..

But when you look at a lot of angles.. then you will understand.. things happen because it has reason.. and for whatever reason it may be.. it is just a part of life.

UniFi v Wimax

If you ask me which one i prefer.. i will surely choose UniFi.. and im very sure almost everyone will agree with my choice.. But then there is too much problem with UniFi.. plus the TM..

And im complaining here..

1)i fill the form, but they dont registered me?

On 18 december i went to the TM point at carefour to registered streamyx.. and they said the Tm contractor will contact me in 10 working days.. untuk pasang telefon line.. as well as streamyx.. so i waited...

but there was no call.. i call again the TM point.. and dia ckp.." contractor TM tu tengah cuti.. dia akan start kerje on first day of januari 2011".. so okeylah.. i pun tunggu..

tunggu punya tunggu.. masuk bulan januari i call again.. and i pun ada pergi kat TM point tu.. and dia cakap suruh tunggu lagi.. so i pun tunggu..

Satu hari tu.. kebetulan berjumpa dgn my abang ipar yang kerje kat TM.. so mintak tolng dia check kan lah.. manalah tahu kot2 dia leh tolong mempercepatkan proses.. but then bila dia check.. rupanya i x pernah registered pun dalam sistem TM tue..

2) Streamyx port penuh..

Bila dah tahu x registered tue.. i pun terus pergi kat TM cawangan titiwangsa.. and bila dia check dlm sistem.. mmg i x diregister.. so i pun registerlah.. tapi bila pegawai TM tue try nk register.. rupanya port kat sentul tu penuh.. so x dapat nk pasang jugak.. unless bila ada port kosong baru boleh...

3) Pasang UniFI..

Then i pun mintak pasang unifilah... pegawai TM tue try check dlm sistem.. alamat apartment i.. mmg ada dlm sistem unifi tue.. cuma service dia x available lagi.. and dia cakap.. akan ada x lama lagi.. coz alamat dah ada.. so service tu bila2 masa aja boleh ada..

so oklah i pun register lah unifi tue.. or in the other words.. ( register for demand list sebenarnya)... and pegawai TM tu ckp suruh i keep contact dengan orang unifi for status i.. and that is what i did.for almost every weeks.. and now i can see orang2 unifi berlegar2 around my apartment.. nk pasang unifi kot... alhamdulillah.. hope sgt boleh install unifi as soon as possible..


Untill this date.. rumah i masih lagi x ada unifi.. and service unifi masih x ada kat rumah i.. but inshaAllah.. akan ada..

UniFi is good.. compared to wimax.. i can say that.. coz i pernah pakai wimax.. wimax mmg good in downloading.. but not so good in uploading..

but wimax does not make you wait for almost a month or two just to get the service.. hari ni pergi daftar.. dah dapat modemnya.. and dah boleh pakai..

Honestly.. im still considering to install wimax.. coz kerje makin banyak.. i dah x boleh tahan untuk pergi ke CC untuk buat kerje.. duit asyik keluar.. and bila duduk umah.. satu kerje pun x leh buat.. mmg rugi sangat..

maybe i akan wait lagi 2 minggu or lebih.. kalau susah sangat.. i just ambik wimax

Sunday, January 9, 2011

face your fear

Everytime mummy or daddy hantar Benjamin pergi sekolah, mummy tahu Benjamin takut sangat.. Benjamin x kenal ramai kawan.. Benjamin x kenal cikgu2.. Benjamin x pernah duduk kat taska pun.. and what make Benjamin bertambah takut.. Benjamin x pernah duduk dengan strangers..

Bukan mummy dan dada x nak temankan Benjamin.. bukan mummy dan dada nk susahkan hidup Benjamin.. It is just.. If mummy asyik "simpan" Benjamin dalam rumah.. mummy takut that one day Benjamin takut to face the world.. and if mummy always be there to cope Benjamin punya fear.. Benjamin x akan pandai how to cope fear tu sendiri..

It is true that it is a responsibility of every parents to always be there for their kids.. tp mummy x nk spoilkan Benjamin.. hingga Benjamin x mampu berdiri di kaki sendiri.. yes..yes.. Benjamin is just 3 years old.. tp it is better to teach you something at the age of 3.. rather than the age of 30..

hari nie.. maybe Benjamin rasa taska bukanlah best sangat.. but then.. once Benjamin dah pandai berkawan.. Then Benjamin akan suka pergi taska.. sbb kat taska ada kawan.. kat rumah x ada kawan kan??

it will not happen in a day my dear.. it will take time for Benjamin to make some friends.. and to cope with your fear.. but i know my son is a tough one.. and i know he can handle this one..

oh well.. do you know how happy and proud i am.. when suddenly i saw you can walk.. so i dont have to carry you all the time??? and you cant imagine how happy and proud i can be if one day.. i know that you are independent enough.. and i have not much to worry..

Regard Mummy

dont take side...

A new words that i taught Benjamin last few days was " dont take side"..

Knp?? sebab masa tu..i sedang bergurau senda dengan my husband.. and i pukul2 lah my husband kat tangan.. and Benjamin nampak.. out of the blues dia datang and pukul i.. and i was like ... "what??".. and mulalah sesi i mengamuk kat Benjamin.. i ckp " Benjamin dont take side"..

Yes.. dont take side.. if you dont know the whole story.. please dont take side..

The reason why i marah Benjamin mcm tu.. sbb i tak nk.. Benjamin interrupt in people's problem.. and x tahu apa kisah sebenar.. terus judge the other side as jahat.. that's not how the way things should goes..

I want my kids to be fair.. You have to listen to both side.. before you make the decision who to protect.. which side you want to be.. if you take a side.. by looking at the surface of the problem.. then you will learn to be bias to one side..

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

2011

i know it is a bit late.. but here is my new year resolution..

1) Change my life.. i wanna make my life more exciting.. and more meaningful

2) Try to get more project.. and get more money..

3) Buy a new car.. plan to buy a proton saga.. maybe around march to April

4) Spice up my marriage.. to the optimum level.. (erkk..)

5) Be a lovely mother.. as well as a supportive wife..

6) Erase one person in my heart..

hmm..and try to lose some weight... everyone want to look good.. dont we?