Hampir seminggu Benjamin dan Aleesya x ada kat rumah.. diaorang duk Terengganu dgn my parents... dan Hampir seminggu jugak me and my husband BerHONEYMOON di KL..
Actually it is a good things to do sometimes.. sbb bila anak-anak ada kat rumah.. kita akan occupied dengan anak-anak.. and we tend to spent less time with our partner.. and what make it worst is.. it will create a gap between you and your partner.. the gap will grew bigger and bigger if you just ignored it...oh well this case is different between people...
Back to my story.. Dulu masa anak-anak ada kat rumah.. me and my husband memang jarang dapat spent masa bersama.. My husband selalu depan komputer and i selalu dengan anak-anak depan TV.. bila dah malam.. both of us mmg sangat penat.. we talked less.. and most of the topic was about our kids..
We argued a lot before this.. because bila kitaorang kurang dpt spent masa bersama.. we tend to be more selfish towards our partner.. There was no US in the relationship.. and it always U and ME ( with kids)..
So bila suddenly anak-anak dah x ada.. kitaorang dapat spent masa sama-sama.. dapat kenal each other lagi dekat.. dapat bercakap pasal banyak benda... dapat buat banyak benda sama-sama.. mcm mana "couple-couple" dulu.. hehehehe..
In some ways.. those things buat hubungan kami bertambah erat.. Bila pergi jalan-jalan.. my husband akan pegang tangan i..bila tgk movie.. dia akan peluk i.. we laughed a lot.. and we argued less.. he care more about me.. and his attention is only for me.. and that make me feel sooo happy..
Everything yang i nak..my husband akan cuba dapatkan.. pernah jugak my husband bangun pagi-pagi.. untuk pergi beli makanan kat bawah.. ( dulu i jer yang selalu gi beli makanan).. bila tengah2 malam i rasa lapar.. kitaorang pergi supper kat kedai mamak.. walaupun masa tu my husband dah ngantuk giler ( pukul 3 pagi).. dia still bwk jugak i pergi supper.. dan yang paling best..dia langsung x berkira bila kene keluarkan duit untuk kitaorang spent masa sama-sama... Tgk wayang, main bowling, karaoke, makan best-best.. dan mcm-macam lagi... ohhhh my husband is the best man i ever had in my whole life.. and i am bless coz i have him...
So Kepada yang dah kahwin.. once in a while kita kena spent masa bersama-sama dengan pasangan kita.. supaya kita boleh refresh balik our relationship with them.. Im not saying anak-anak ni mengeruhkan keadaan rumah tangga.. Anak-anak penyeri rumah tangga.. dialah penghibur kita dengan suami kita.. tapi we cant deny the fact that kids make us occupied .. and this will create a gap in our relationship...
Spent masa bersama-sama doesnt need a whole weekend.. kadang-kadang satu malam sudah cukup.. pergi tengok wayang sama-sama ke.. or pergi dinner sama-sama.. tu dah cukup.. luangkan masa hanya untuk kita dan pasangan kita.. no kids..
Bila i spent masa dengan my husband.. i selalu bagi tahu dia.. " if kita love each other.. our kids will learn how to love others because they always watching us"..
p/s : I nk my marriage jadi mcm my grandparents.. They love each other untill today..diaorang x leh hidup tanpa satu sama lain.. and pernah atuk i ckp " dia hanya nak nenek i ajer yang selalu bersama dgn dia bila dia sakit".. for some people diaorang akan rasa benda ni mcm membebankan.. coz suami dia x leh hidup sendiri.. but for me.. when my husband need ONLY me.. it means i must be something important in his life.. and that show how much he love me..
